In the first phase of the adult relationship, the couple lives wholeness in complementarity (see fig. Yin/Yang). Each partner has their own characteristics and strengths and together they are whole. There is also something of the other in each: The female personality parts of the man correspond to his inner daughter (white dot in yin/yang: spirit), the male parts of the woman to her inner son (black dot: body, matter). These opposite-sex personality parts are immature at first and still have to develop.
Risk of abuse
On the one hand, this is a gain: the son connects the mother with her body and her strength. The daughter brings the father into contact with his unconditional love. But it also carries the danger of abuse, for example by putting the child in the place of the partner and taking from him opposite-sex energy (which the partner may deny one; see. Abuse - the stolen life).
Negative couple dynamics
The different energies can also lead to a negative couple dynamic:
- At a young age: The impetuous young man (red) conquers the young woman (white) regardless of loss.
- Adulthood: The strong woman (in the grip of her inner macho, red) no longer wants to put up with everything and fights the man who, as a white knight, is on the way to integrating his gentle feminine side and love (white).