The child as a substitute for a partner
Problems in the partnership
If the partners are caught up in a power game, they will have trouble getting what they lack from the other, be it emotional attention or sex. The greater the problems in the partnership, the more tempted the parents will be to take what they need from the children.
Appreciation for performance
Because children need love, they want to please their parents. That is why it is so easy to take from them. When the child is brought in as a substitute partner, he or she is forced into a role that is not appropriate. This can start very subtly by being allowed to "help" the parents and being appreciated for achievements.
The Mother's Son
For example, a mother can get male energy and understanding from her son by complaining to him about the unloving partner. And she can be sure of his approval at the latest when the son also suffers from the hard-hearted father.
Kingship for nothing
In this way, she unconsciously makes her son "her king" and the heir to the throne who will one day dethrone and disempower the disagreeable husband.
Her power is to give her son of her admiration and confirmation and thus make him dependent on her. In this way she has him in the palm of her hand and can manipulate him.
The Stolen Heart of the Son
But in this way, the son has attained the "royal dignity" too early and without really having done anything for it. But what he does not know is: the price was high, too high.
His mother has taken his heart for herself.
That is why, even as an adult man, he still believes he can rule in all relationships and obtain a kingdom for nothing. Accordingly, however, his attempts to build a relationship will fail. For he cannot understand why he does not receive the same unqualified "admiration" from other women as he does from Mama.
The curse over the man
Thorns and thistles
Instead of giving him appreciation and admiration, the woman will instead show him her prickly and rejecting side. This is his curse: instead of the fruit of love, he will reap thorns (see Sleeping Beauty and The Curse After the Fall).
That is why it is so important for the man to break away from his mother (see The Deliverance from the Mother).
The "son of a bitch
The "whore" symbolises the woman who lives for power instead of love. For this reason, she does not receive the love from her partner that she actually longs for. Instead, she reaches out to her son and "takes" his heart for herself.