The integration of the masculine parts: self-efficacy
Integration of weakness and containment
The woman who loves herself - in her powerlessness and weakness - can free herself from this by beginning to stand up for herself and her needs.
The kiss means: She speaks to herself of perfect, unconditional love!
Love gives a woman the strength to forgive those who have hurt her: First and foremost, herself. She has hurt herself and allowed herself to be hurt by repeatedly forcing herself, "raping" herself, to give beyond her limits what others demanded. This may have been because she was addicted to recognition and affirmation due to a lack of self-love.
Taming the Dragon: Controlling the Negative Emotional Drive
As the woman begins to forgive, her ego, namely her negative emotional drive, the pain drive ("mortido", death drive, cf. The drive) weakens. Reconciliation and healing now become possible. But the negativity will not disappear from one day to the next. Rather, it is necessary (as with the physical drive) to take control of the emotions (containment) and to tame the inner dragon.
[S. Martha and the Taming of the Dragon, Strong Emotions and the Unconscious (Shadow Activity) and Self-Efficacy - Living Positively.]
Self-efficacy: strategy and goal orientation
The woman develops her masculine side by beginning to live creativity, decisiveness and assertiveness. Strategy helps her not to always say what is on the tip of her tongue and thus reveal her inner self. In this way, she can protect her vulnerability and instead think about what serves her goal and how she can assert her wishes. The woman who has learned to love herself perceives and understands her emotions. However, she has them under control and has also learned to distance herself from undue demands.
In other words, she has activated her inner hero, Christ within her.
[In addition, the song "Hero" by Mariah Carey, Lyrics and translation.]